Ralph Waldo Emerson:

Write it on your heart that every day is the best day in the year. No man has learned anything rightly, until he knows that every day is Doomsday.

Ralph Waldo Emerson:

Finish each day and be done with it. You have done what you could; some blunders and absurdities have crept in; forget them as soon as you can. Tomorrow is a new day; you shall begin it serenely and with too high a spirit to be encumbered with your old nonsense.

 

Who knew my choice in television shows for my 4 year old would lead me to one of the deepest philosophical answers to life. 

 

Being somewhat selective on what the kid watches on TV, led to discovering SUPER WHY© on PBSThe premise of each show is: a character has a problem, so they literally say we have a problem so lets look — in a BOOK!!!.  They go into a story (jack in the beanstalk, princess and the pea etc.) with a similar conundrum (wanted to use that word thank you very much), and they look for answers in the story that can help solve their problem, while also helping the characters in the book all based around letters and spelling. 

 

Basically in every story one of the characters is having a huge struggle and can’t get over it.  The Super Readers can see how obvious the behavior is that’s creating this problem and say “hey cut the shit” (I may be paraphrasing here).  Every time the struggling character replies; “I have to keep doing this, this is my story, this is how it’s written, see” while pointing to the actual words that do indeed describe this very behavior and response. 

 

Being on a path of enlightenment that has a few bumps and detours, it took me into my thousandth or so viewing of these shows before I had my life altering epiphany (it’s obviously improved my vocabulary as you can see) “this is no kids show dam it,  this is our LIFE!”

 

These characters don’t even consider there are options or possible variations to their story, so wouldn’t even consider looking for other options they know this is their story they know what the words are in their story and that’s that.  They state it that simply “I have to keep doing this see, its how it’s written”.  And don’t for a minute doubt that, while it may be a bitter pill to swallow, and we may not be as obvious about it, each and every one of us does this same thing every day. 

 

I think every single one of us often unknowingly lives like this.  We do the same things, think the same thoughts, and follow the same patterns because “it’s our story, that’s how it has to be its how it’s written”.  We fancy ourselves so creative, revolutionary, modern, liberated, self aware, ssooo DIFFERENT.  And dam if we aren’t any different than freakin’ JACK AND THE BEAN STALK!!!!  We tell ourselves every day in our own creative ways!!! “This is how it has to be this is how my story is written”. 

 

“Something we were withholding made us weak, until we found out it was

ourselves.”

 – Robert Frost, American poet

 

We have this set of beliefs (I wont get into from where they come, that’s a wholleee other article) the thing is they are there,,, it really becomes irrelevant who wrote the story or what pen was used.  That no longer matters.  It’s our story name it what you will.  Our past story impacts us of COURSE, but does it dictate the words moving forward?  The real thing that matters is recognizing this is our core belief, following our storyline that largely impacts our lives.  The other amazing thing is when we recognize how much can change when WE realize we impact the words!  And it can change.  Doesn’t matter where it came from what matters is from today on we’re always rewriting the story and don’t have to use the same lines. 

 

 

I often wonder what’s scarier or more intimidating to us; the belief that we can’t change the words, or we can?  Is the possibility that we can write our own story more daunting than acting our our story even if we don’t like it?  Is it somehow easier to blame the author, to think as a mere character in the tale, we just have no choice, we have no creative license, it’s just the story man (hands up in the air in surrender).  We literally don’t consider the option many times, that we have creative license.  Its in ink man, it’s my karma, it’s my story.  I’d love to but I can’t.  But look how good I am at making the best of it.

 

Perhaps a first step is to quiet down a bit.  To stop acting out our stories or at least observe for a bit and become aware of it, see what the plot is, decide if we like our story.  Trust our gut, our reactions and core feelings.  Is there something in the storyline that isn’t quite working for us anymore? Just begin to consider that we can change the words, that it’s not true that it’s in ink and nothing we can do.  Become aware of how much our storyline and perceived inability to alter it effects our decisions, actions feelings.  It can allow you to view things with a different lens which alone changes our story.    

 

We begin to pick up our own pen just by becoming observers and aware of our storyline.  Flipping the page, what’s more liberating then a blank page, or to some terrifying!!  But just start to consider that you have your own pen, your own page and can create your own story.  Every day you can.  Every day it’s said you can die a new death and begin a new life.  And this is the most liberating, exciting thing we can be faced with. 

 

“Conditions for creativity are to be puzzled; to concentrate; to accept conflict and tension; to be born everyday; to feel a sense of self.”

 – Erich Fromm, psychologist

 

 

In light of full disclosure, it can also honestly be one of the most daunting, paralyzing, depressing things to be faced with.  Those are normal feelings as well.  When we lose the premise of someone else being the author that comes with a lot of mixed emotions.  We can feel there are so many options it’s overwhelming.  It can feel lonely and too heavy.  It can stop you in your tracks.  It’s enough to want to hand the pen back.  The realization there may have been different choices all along, makes us want to use the pen to beat ourselves over the head because we followed this storyline so long.  It can also leave us with “writers block” sometimes abdicating the responsibility to another seems easier, maybe they know more about how the story should go, or at a minimum they’re willing to write it, I just cant handle the responsibility.  So we do the thing where we hold our personal book up over our eyes and just dive into the story.

 

It’s normal and natural to feel these things.  It seems a core requirement for writing our own true story is to be gentle with yourself.  When we aren’t gentle and forgiving to ourselves we slip back into using old stories, words that no longer enhance or are true to our current story.  Then we become like one of “those” writing the unauthorized biography, just isn’t accurate.    Realize that as there are books, there are endless versions of our personal stories.  There isn’t one best or right or one book fits all.  There are many chapters to our stories.  Feel these feelings, they are normal.  Feel them and let them flow through you and go on.  Envision your story, go, and pick up your pen, your magic wand, your pencil with the big ole eraser on it!  Start writing and if you don’t like what you read you can change the words.  And at the risk of sounding like a big HUGE ole’ cliché/hallmark card, every moment is a new chapter.  Don’t stop using yourself to write your own story.  You have the best version of your story to be told, and the world needs to hear it.  I, for one, can’t wait to read it!